Why do people not go to the church in the first place?

A week ago I posed the often asked question “why do people stop going to church? I was thinking more along the lines of those who once had attended regularly, perhaps even been a “pillar” of the church, but are now no longer interested. I considered a number of reasons without coming to firm conclusions. I also tried to clear up the misapprehension that church was synonymous with bricks and mortar rather than people interested in Christianity, while insisting the Church comprised real Christians, those who followed Jesus,

Today I want to consider those who might never have attended church or have only done so infrequently (e.g. baptisms, weddings, funerals) and if they had attended would have only have done so under duress or out of necessity. Understandably, those whose religion is not Christian, or whose beliefs don’t coincide with what the church purports to follow, may not be interested. Extrapolating from the Parable of the Sower, some more spiritual types may say the Devil having taken away the seed that was scattered on the wayside, then prevents people pursuing the matter further. If the Holy Spirit who should drive church activity convicts the world of sin, righteousness and judgment, it should not come as a surprise when people not wanting to be thus convicted don’t go to church.

But there is another reason and how significant is this I can’t say for sure, although I have an inkling. Going back to my late teens, it became evident to me that there were those who declared themselves as non church goers because those who did go to church were hypocrites or they found more “fellowship” in the local pub. How true this is I cannot say, partly because I don’t know, although in mitigation I find the efforts of the voluntary and community sector (VCS) to address social justice matters is disproportionately provided a good deal more by the churches and church goers. compared with the “not churches” and non church goers.

In my wanderings and as I near the end of my sojourn on earth, I have become mindful there are a good number of Christian folk who recognise this dilemma and want to do something about it, even though not always successfully implementing strategies to do/be what needs to be done. I agree with one minister of one of the churches I gave up on in the past who said all we need is love and, because I saw a lack of it and a void in authentic Christian living, I decided to cut my losses and move on. I also noted that many are pre-occupied with making their churches welcoming to outsiders and “types” that have been put off church in the past, arguing with some justification that the fault lay as much, if not more, with the church. This is of course a noble undertaking except, sadly as too often happens, the baby (the Gospel message) is thrown out with the bath water (unhelpful traditions), leaving only the soap suds.

When working out what is needed there is no better example than that of Jesus, the one who doesn’t break a bruised reed or put out a smoking flax. I think of him and the woman at the well and the one caught in adultery or Zaccheus the despised tax collector or Legion the maniac everyone tried to avoid, or blind Bartimaeus, and there were the sinners and publicans he ate with, much to the disgust of the religious folk, and numerous other examples where he engaged with people from all sections of society in a positively wholesome way. My point is, we need to be like Jesus and show genuine love, often in meaningful ways yet will never be acknowledged by society in dishing out rewards and accolades, but seen by Him who matters.

I can’t help thinking that if this were the case in our churches there will be a revolution and we will be dealing with what sadly is a major stumbling block in deterring many people from attending church: a lack of authenticity and sense of the presence of the Lord, and it should start now with me and you (if you are a real Christian). Come what may, with or without us, Jesus will build His Church.


One thought on “Why do people not go to the church in the first place?

  1. glen says:

    My own feeling is that people do not feel the need of a religion or God. As they used to never question his existence in past ages, they now never question his non existence. They see the world around them, the injustice, the cruelty, the indifference and they ask themselves how could a God exist and let such suffering go on happening. Of course different religions have different amswers all of which may seem very convincing to the followers but not to those outside. After all, you are asking them to believe in an invisible, all powerful being, whose existence you cannot prove, whose existence, science cannot prove, who never DIRECTLY stretches forth his hand to deliver people out of their misery, who can only be subjectively experienced and whose followers promise you that if you do not force yourself to believe in him, will punish you eternally in the most frightful ways possible although he professes to love you. Which doesn’t make a lot of sense… so to a lot of people, God has become irrelevant and a church is just an empty building, sometimes beautiful, sometimes not, which can be visited on any day, not just Sunday…

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